Discover The Missing Element & Live a More Balanced Life

Updated: Aug 5

Where would we be without water to drink, air to breathe, food to eat, and the sun for warmth? These four Elements- Water, Air, Earth, and Fire – are not just fundamental, they are essential to all of life… They are the holy source of our creation – the inter-dependent giants that glue our world together,” a perfect introductory quote from Debra Silverman, the author of The Missing Element. If you want to understand the ‘why’ behind your behaviors, actions, and beliefs- The Missing Element will forever change the way you think of yourself and those around you.


Depending what season of life you are in, you may have too little or too much of these elements. The Missing Element will give you the actionable tools to grow in certain elements or to scale back, leading to a more balanced YOU. No matter what stage of life you are in, it’s always the right time to see others without judgement, to cultivate compassion for yourself and those around you. Silverman highlights that all four elements exist within each of us, we just need the proper tools to activate them. The Missing Element. Do you know which element is missing in your life?

For more than 40 years, Debra Silverman has served as a specialized healer to thousands of individuals around the world. Her in-depth education in Psychology combined with her expertise in Esoteric (soul-centered) Astrology has made Silverman known worldwide for the life-changing knowledge she shares. The Missing Element reveals her unique approach of the four elements- Water, Air, Earth, and Fire, and the role they have in your life (past, present, and future).


As we dive into the four different elements, keep in mind that there are high roads and shadow sides of each of the elements, this book provides medicine and practical tools to help aid the shadow sides (of too much or too little of each element) so you can live a more balanced life.

The moment our life begins, we are nurtured in water (the womb) for nine months. Water is a necessity in our daily life and as we think of the components of water; it’s wet, it comes and goes like the waves in the ocean, it has no boundaries. Water is the element of the emotional body. Some people cry easily (or don’t cry at all), they are watery, they may be prone to depression or anxiety, they are the feelers of this world. Water people can tend to be on the quiet side, they value their alone time, it’s the emotional body that can carry hurt long after the story is being told. If you are someone who lacks water or has too much water, your biggest challenge will be to learn how to ask for help.


Medicine for Water: Emotional stability and wisdom is the best medicine for depression, addiction, and other shadows of Water. Give the following tools a try:

· Meditation- Find your inner peace

· Daily journal- How am I feeling? Are these my feelings or someone else’s?

· Environment change- What is pulling you down? Have a physical relationship with water, walk by the ocean or lake, take a bath, and listen to the sounds of water

The moment we are born, we take our first breath of Air. Air is our intellect, and how we communicate, it’s our mind and our ability to speak. You have the power to create thoughts of happiness or thoughts of darkness. Which one will you choose? People with a lot of Air love to talk, read, and write. They get bored quickly and beat to their drum.


Medicine for Air: Air people may struggle to make decisions; here are a few pointers for Air:

· Air out your fears by talking out loud or writing them out

· Ask questions, and pursue your curiosity, but be aware of when you should listen

As we grow from infancy, we begin to crawl and walk; we find our footing, balance, and ground ourselves into the Earth. Earth is our ability to provide, be useful, and serve others. Earth people are loyal, dependable, reliable, and sometimes a bit predictable and critical.


Medicine for Earth: If you want to be more balanced in these areas of your life, give the following tools a try:

· Schedule the same bedtime and wake-up time

· Make a goal and stick to it for one week- such as making your bed or cooking one homemade meal a day

· Treat yourself to a haircut, facial, or massage; take care of your physical body

Once we learn to walk, our energy and physical actions in this world start to take off. We begin to form opinions, and we begin to take action; we find our Fire. Fire is all about fun, your inner child, creativity, exertion of your physical body, and is energized by others. It’s the element of indulgence- good and bad. Fire is courage, honesty, passion, but it can also be blunt, ruthless, and careless.


Medicine for Fire: If you feel like you could use some Fire in your life, here are a few tips:

· Exercise- the fastest way to fire up our body

· Find your inner child- dance to some music, paint a picture, watch a funny movie

· Physically light a candle or build a fire


Depending on what season of life you are in, you may have too little or too much of these elements. The Missing Element will give you the actionable tools to grow in certain elements or to scale back, leading to a more balanced YOU. No matter what stage of life you are in, it’s always the right time to see others without judgment, to cultivate compassion for yourself and those around you. Silverman highlights that all four elements exist within each of us, we just need the proper tools to activate them. Do you know which element is missing in your life?


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